“Psychology is for jerks & losers,” said the guy who was afraid to explore the inner workings of his mind. That’s not you of course, I mean you’re reading this, so clearly you are trying to tap into more of your awesomeness. Psychology is not the sterile, cold, and dull field it is sometimes portrayed as. In fact, it’s actually pretty rad-ass. My field of clinical psych is designed to help people resolve the inner conflicts they experience, the fear, anxiety, depression, anger, insecurities, attachment related distress, relationship shittiness, and beef they have with others, etc., in order to help them live a happier and healthier life. How do you get to this place? One way is that you learn how to cultivate self-awareness. If you can achieve this, you get two bazillion dollar prizes: emotional wellbeing and mental clarity. If you can get to a place where you experience these two things on a regular basis, you are solid gold. Ain’t no Hollywood celebrity, super model, athlete, or rockstar, who can buy that. Inner peace is priceless and I want to help you let go of all the nasty, dank, poopy things that are getting in the way and stymieing your success (Yes! I always wanted to use the word stymie).
So, how do you do this?? Well, I have a lot of ideas on how to help, but we’ll keep it simple and start with just one for this post.
1.) Stop putting other people on pedestals. You know how Gisele Bundchen, Brad Pitt, M.C. Hammer and The Ultimate Warrior take a dump? Answer: the same way you and me do, butt cheeks down, sphincter unclenched, hoping it snaps off in one clean drop. I am not a coprophile, I’m just trying to convey and convince you that we are all the same at the core. Yes we are wonderfully unique (yadda, yadda, yadda). We are different colors and different ages, we have our own quirks and idiosyncrasies, I’m not talking about all that magnificent stuff, I’m saying that on a general level, we are equal. We all want the same things in life. Research even shows that universal truths exist and that all humans have the need to (1) feel connected, (2) feel autonomous and (3) feel competent. (Check out self-determination theory if you want more juice for your mind grapes on this topic.) What this means is, whether you’re a Dingus McGhee living in America, a Dingus McGhog living in China, or a Dingus McGevich living in Serbia, you have the need and desire to feel attached to others, to feel independent and in control of your destiny, and to experience a sense of mastery in some area of your life. You are just as worthy as anyone else on this planet and should not be elevating anyone above yourself. [*Side note: if you hurt and molest a child, adult, senior citizen or animal, you suck genital wart balls and this message does not apply to you.]
What I’m saying is, it’s one thing to be a fan of your favorite musician, actor, comedian and or instagrammer you like to creep stalk, but elevating that person(s) above you and putting him or her on a pedestal, as if for some reason you are less worthy, is completely bunk. Same thing goes for people in your immediate environment. This means that your family, friends and coworkers should all be on the exact same platform as you. Not higher, not lower. No matter what you look like, where you live, how much you weigh, what your job is, what kind of car you drive etc., you are just as worthy as anyone else on this planet and deserve to be happy. A very wise woman by the name of Heather Kahn taught me something that I try to impart to everyone else: You are Precious and Beautiful to Behold. Believe that guys, it’s the truth!
There’s a lot more to it than this, but for starters, I really hope you digged this first post. Please leave me a comment and share any ideas, opinions or questions you may want to see addressed in future posts. Thank you for reading this =)